From Jim: This is the first in a series of seventeen blog posts on workplace bullying and related topics running Monday, July 2, 2012 to Sunday, August 12, 2012.
Events and people depicted are fictionalized composites from multiple sources. Any resemblance to actual people or events is purely coincidental. A man is called to co-pastor a mid-Atlantic US congregation to bring in young families, but is sabotaged by the senior pastor when he proves too effective for his own good. Despite great quarterly job performance reviews pastor tells the board the associate is "unsuited for ministry.” The locks are changed to the church doors and he is summoned to the pastor's office. He leaves the church, and his wife bumps into a member of the congregation a couple of months later. The church lady wonders if ex-pastor and his wife’s divorce is final yet. His wife, shocked, asks where this lady would have gotten such an idea in her head. The senior pastor had "let it slip" that he had failed morally to the congregation (he hadn’t).
A pastor is in a toxic rural church for 3-1/2 years before resigning. He’s
in a healthy setting now, but still struggles to forgive people at the previous
church.
After only six months at his church, two
families start a concerted effort to undercut the pastor with gossip and personal
attacks. He is called in by the deacons three times to answer for gossip, most
of which he knew nothing about until the meetings. Next they go after his
wife. They spread lies about her, and then
two deacons call her in to answer for them. When pastor asks the deacons to
identify who had spread these lies about his wife, they refuse to say. He
resigns after just a year. They are
struggling financially, but he says one of the hardest things is explaining to
their two young children why they don't go to that church any more. He lives in a small town and isn't sure where
to worship.
- 89%
of pastors have considered leaving the ministry at one time. 57% said they would leave if they had a
better place to go – including secular work.
- 35-40%
of pastors actually do leave the ministry, most after only five
years.
- Fifteen
hundred pastors leave the ministry each month due to moral failure,
spiritual burnout, or strife in their churches.
- Fifty
percent of pastors' marriages will end in divorce.
- Eighty
percent of pastors feel unqualified and discouraged in their role as
pastor.
- Fifty
percent of pastors are so discouraged that they would leave the ministry
if they could, but have no other way of making a living.
- Eighty
percent of seminary and Bible school graduates who enter the ministry will
leave the ministry within the first five years.
- Seventy
percent of pastors constantly fight depression.
- Most
statistics say that 60% to 80% of those who enter the ministry will not still
be in it 10 years later, and only a fraction will stay in it as a lifetime
career.
- 90
percent of pastors start off right with a true sense of call and the
enthusiasm and the endurance of faith to make it, but something happens to
derail their train of passion and love for the ministry.
Workplace bullying is gaining attention, and it
doesn’t just happen in churches. But
churches have become more than ever sanctuaries for wolves to devour sheep,
free from any real accountability. The
fox is in the henhouse, and they are often run by the foxes themselves. Governing bodies are seldom equipped to deal
effectively with pastor abuse, and state law often explicitly won’t get
involved.
This next series is on workplace bullying,
especially in the church, and how you can face the Goliaths in your life. You may not stay, but hopefully you will get
out alive.
Keep them coming Jim. Your new church is online and we are listening to every word. Gainor
ReplyDeleteThanks for reading Gainor. I knew I wanted to do this series, and all I needed was a gentle nudge. Bless you!
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